Tell me I’m not the only one feeling this way.
Navigating through language exchange can be even harder and more confusing than 밀당 (the push-pull thing that both sexes engage in while trying to decide if the other party is interested in you).
FYI, I hate 밀당 and never quite knew how to do it. I feel like I’m the one that’s always there, earnest and easily attracted. (Not a good combi)
Language exchange can be even more confusing. Recently I started using one of those Apps and sites to find people to practice with and talk to.
The older I get, the more hesitant I get when initiating contact. Should I wait for someone to say hi? If I initiate the convo, would he think I’m interested in him? Maybe I should just add the person and wait for him/her to start the convo?
Thoughts that go through my mind every time.
When the convo gets going, it gets even more confusing.
I thought this convo is going on fine! Why did he/she stop replying? Damn the message was read an hour ago and he/she is online now. Why no response?! Am I replying too fast? Am I coming off as too earnest?
I never quite understand how people would suddenly cut off contact. Whenever I thought the conversation was going on well, the person would just stop replying. Or not message again even when he/she said “let’s talk again tomorrow”.
Many times, I had people who seemed pretty serious about language exchange message me and then we set up a plan to get things going. Only that it ended up nowhere, with no progress. Weird. Why did you cut contact when you were the one more serious about it?
Nowadays I can never quite tell what the other person is thinking. Not getting a reply after you replied to the person’s question is the most frustrating thing ever. -.-
Am I scaring off the person by replying almost immediately to each message? (My phone is just forever with me…)
This whole experience is just confusing.
I’m quite aloof in real life but I do approach each language exchange with the mindset that I’m gaining a new friend. So I do put in some 감정 each time. And hence it is sad when I don’t get a reply.
I must be crazy because I keep going to check whether I get new messages or not. But then again this habit is not just for this, I check my emails / SNS etc super regularly lol. But it’s such a disappointment when the other party can disappear for days. :/
I’m also quite tired of all those superficial and short conversations that never get anywhere. -.-
Please share your experiences with language exchange!! 😀 and some tips please.