One of the unfortunate attitudes (in my opinion) to take in language learning is to be overly defensive when being corrected or when being subjected to correction or critique. I say critique, not criticism. But then again, there’s no value in being prickly and defensive even in the face of harsh and perhaps unwarranted criticism, although that might be a knee-jerk reaction.
I like being corrected. (That’s of course on the pretext that said person knows what he/she is saying) To me, the person is trying to help. More often than not, it’s the easiest to ignore. For someone to spend the effort correcting you, it shows that they are keen to help.
This is why I don’t understand people who will go all the way to prove and emphasise that “it’s a typo”, “I knew this but I just forgot!”, “I can understand all these difficult stuff, so it’s not like my (insert language name) is not good”, “I haven’t study in a long while, it’s normal that my writing/speaking etc isn’t perfect”. mmm hmm. I think it’s simple to just accept the correction graciously and to take it as a valuable lesson learnt. Nobody is judging your mistake, so there’s no need to insist on how decent you actually are or to come up with different reasons to “justify” that mistake. >< Everyone goes through that long process of getting from nothing, to something, and then to something better (lol). Instead of giving 342098 excuses and justifications for your current standard or that you managed to reach x standard despite 24920284 things that are not in your favour, just focus on the process. Accept that you will just be x standard if you are unable to commit time / effort to it, or put in the time/effort if you wanna go beyond.
As I’m pointing this out, it’s also not meant to criticise, but also a reminder to myself as I may have fallen into the same trap myself at times. Especially at the spur of the moment reactions, when I’m embarrassed or flustered. Sometimes I also like to think that I’m not too bad, given that I self-studied (compared to those who have the opportunity to study long-term in Korea, majored in the language or what not). But ultimately, I know that it is not the best excuse and I’m just not better because I didn’t put in more time and effort. Simple as that.
Sometimes I also wonder if I have too strong opinions when it comes to language learning hahaha. I am usually quite mild about everything else and pretty much adopt a “I don’t really quite care” attitude. So I apologise in advance if I am the one who is too sensitive!
Thought this was quite an interesting issue to ponder on. Any thoughts? 🙂